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S5E9: Redeeming Shame in Our Nurturing Communities

S5E9: Redeeming Shame in Our Nurturing Communities

September 21, 2022

Welcome to season 5 episode 9 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame.  This week we are looking at chapter 8, “Redeeming Shame in Our Nurturing Communities”.

 

Shame doesn’t just appear out of nowhere.  Shame begins in the earliest communities in which we dwell.  It is to those communities we now turn to see how shame emerges there – but also what we can to retell the stories of those communities: our families, our churches, and schools.

 

Listen in as we get to the bottom of the places where our stories begin, and begin to reimagine how God can transform them on the way to doing the same for the larger communities in which we live.

 

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S5E8: Our Healing Cloud of Witnesses

S5E8: Our Healing Cloud of Witnesses

September 14, 2022

Welcome to season 5 episode 8 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame.  This week we are looking at chapter 7, “Our Healing Cloud of Witnesses”.

 

For shame to be healed and our lives recommissioned, we need more than good information so we can simply appropriate it on our own as individuals. In the same way that we were made as contingent, co-regulating people who, made in God’s image, require the presence of others for our healthy growth and development, we also need a community for the healing of our shame.

 

A community that can bear witness to our lives and provide guidance in the re-telling of our stories.  Fortunately, we have a model for how to do that. 

 

Join us as we examine what it means to live truly before a body of people who help us see Jesus seeing us more truly, so that we can see ourselves in the way.

 

Hebrews 12:1-2

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

 

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S5E7: Shame’s Remedy: Vulnerability

S5E7: Shame’s Remedy: Vulnerability

September 7, 2022

Welcome to season 5 episode 7 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame.  This week we are looking at chapter 6, “Shame’s Remedy: Vulnerability”.

 

Hiding and isolation are hallmarks of shame. Moreover, the very notion of exposing our shame is…shaming.

 

Who knew that the very thing that we are most fearful of—our shame being exposed—is the place we need to begin to discover shame’s healing, and to have our stories begin to be told more truly.

 

This week we talk about how, like so much of the rest of the story of the gospel, it is in our vulnerability—that very place in which our shame first took place and took shape—that lies the key to its regeneration..

 

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S5E6: Shame and the Biblical Narrative

S5E6: Shame and the Biblical Narrative

August 31, 2022

Welcome to season 5 episode 6 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame.  This week we are looking at chapter 6, “Shame and the Biblical Narrative”.

 

At the heart of all that the Bible is lies a story.  YES, a story about humans and all that we are. But even more so, a story about a God and who he is. In many ways, the Bible is the story that God is telling about us.

 

Given what we have learned thus far about how shame infects the way we tell stories to gain the upper hand, we don’t just need a better story, we need a better story teller.

 

This week we’ll see that the biblical narrative is not just some feel-good fairy tale.  It’s the hardest, most beautiful story you’ve ever heard.  And evil is working overtime, using shame to keep you from hearing the story that God is telling you about you – and the world of beauty and goodness in which you are to play a central role.

 

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S5E5: The Story of Shame You Are Living

S5E5: The Story of Shame You Are Living

August 24, 2022

Welcome to season 5 episode 5 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame.  This week we are looking at chapter 4, “The Story of Shame You Are Living”.

 

We’re all storytellers.  Unlike any other living creature, humans are the only animals that tell stories in the way we do. 

 

It is in those stories that our shame takes up residence, with all of the mechanics we have learned about so far, and begins to tell a story that leads to our destruction.  Hence, it’s not enough to know about the mechanics of how shame works. We also need to know where in our stories shame first inserted itself.

 

SO… which story does each of us believe we are living? The answers we discover may surprise you, and will also begin to pave the way toward freedom from the straitjacket in which shame has bound us.

 

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S5E4: Joy, Shame and the Brain

S5E4: Joy, Shame and the Brain

August 17, 2022

Welcome to season 5 episode 4 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame.  This week we are looking at chapter 3, “Joy, Shame and the Brain”.

 

We were made for joy.

The bible and our greatest literature attest to this. But not only this: research in attachment reflects that joyful human relationships are the key to our well-being. ⁠

No wonder, then, that shame targets our experience of joy as its first priority in disintegrating us, disconnecting us from ourselves and each other. ⁠

This week we examine why joy is so important to practice—yep, you read that right: practice—and how shame will do anything it can to rob us of as much of it as it can.⁠

 

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S5E3: How Shame Targets the Mind

S5E3: How Shame Targets the Mind

August 10, 2022

Welcome to season 5 episode 3 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame.  This week we are looking at chapter 2, How Shame Targets the Mind.

 

It has been said, “Keep your friends close. And keep your enemies closer.” If we want to know what evil is up to as it uses shame in its quest to devour us, the first thing to know is how the mind works—so that we will also know where and how evil is doing its dirty work.

 

In this episode, we review the fundamental features of the mind—such as the nine domains of integration, attention and emotion—and discover where and how shame, like the evil that is wielding it, parasitically uses the very way our minds work to undo us and all of God’s good creation in the process.

 

 

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Being Known Podcast season 2 on the nine domains of integration and how the mind works.

  • S2E1 – An overview of the mind and the nine domains
  • S2E2 – Domain of consciousness
  • S2E3 – Vertical domain of the mind
  • S2E4 – Horizontal domain of the mind
  • S2E5 – Domain of memory
  • S2E6 – Narrative domain of integration
  • S2E7 – State domain of integration
  • S2E8 – Interpersonal domain of integration
  • S2E9 – Temporal domain of mental activity
  • S2E10 – Transpirational domain of the mind
  • S2E11 – Overview of the season

 

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S5E2: Our Problem with Shame

S5E2: Our Problem with Shame

August 3, 2022

Welcome to season 5 episode 2 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame.  This week we are looking at chapter 1, Our Problem with Shame.

 

It’s not enough to know what shame IS. We also have to know how and where it works. Our problem with shame is not just a sensation in which we feel bad. It’s about all the ways that it hijacks our mind, relationships, and mostly, the story in which we believe we’re living.

 

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S5E1: The Story That Shame is Trying to Tell

S5E1: The Story That Shame is Trying to Tell

July 27, 2022

Welcome to season 5 episode 1 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame.  This week we are looking at the introduction section, The Story That Shame is Trying to Tell.

 

­­­­­­­­­­­­­­What is it about shame? Why is it that it just doesn’t seem to go away?

 

Moreover, what makes it so destructive? Is it its mechanics? Or is it because it gets so intimately tangled up in our stories? Not only that, but is shame always bad for us? To top it off, how does evil figure into the way shame becomes so much sand in the gears of our relationships, in both small moments and even in the public arena?

 

Together we’ll discover that the more we know about this topic—and how evil wants to use it to devour us—the more able we will be to overcome evil with goodness and beauty.

 

 

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S4E12 Wrap Q&A

S4E12 Wrap Q&A

May 18, 2022

Being Known Podcast normally ends our season with a wrap up episode highlighting each episode with one more nugget of wisdom.  This season we mixed things up a bit and asked our listeners and followers what they wanted to know more about.

 

We received over 40 questions seeking additional wisdom on sexual trauma, generational trauma, trauma and the church and more.

 

A few of the questions asked include:

  • How does trauma play out in our relationship with God? And how does this affect our ability to attune to God?
  • Can trauma cause a type of amnesia where we forget past events? And why/how does this happen?
  • If I already have grown children, is it too late to heal my trauma and not pass my trauma onto my kids?

 

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